Bachelorette Spoilers

From an outsiders' point of view, Bachelorette Party Etiquette usually relates to the guest list, gift giving and timing of the event.  As an insider, planning, executing, and entertaining groups across the country, Bachelorette Party Etiquette starts from the planning process and goes all the way through to the post party wrap up and thank you cards. Over the years, I've had the pleasure of being interviewed hundreds of times on Bachelorette Party Etiquette, giving advice on the planning process.  However, I've never had the opportunity to share some of the most important Bachelorette Party Etiquette tips to help you get through executing the party and after. 

What is a Bachelorette Party Spoiler?
In this post, I'm talking about Bachelorette Spoilers who are guests, those that are real "party poopers" and spoil the event for the bachelorette-of-honor.  Maybe it's one of the friends of the bride that decides to buzz in her ear over cocktails about "surprise news of the groom" or "interest from a past love".  As a result, the bride-to-be is less focused on having fun and ends up being stressed out or in tears.

As the Bachelorette Party Host, how do you prepare for inhibiting Bachelorette Party Spoilers?
Before the event, reach out to all of the guests by phone and remind them that the Bachelorette Party is a celebration for the bride-to-be and a chance for her to relax. Recommend that they do no bring up any serious conversations or topics that may upset her.

How do you deal with Bachelorette Spoilers at the Bachelorette Party?
As the Bachelorette Party Host, your goal is to be at her side making sure that guests and strangers add to her celebration and do not ruffle the guest-of-honor's feathers. While that's the goal, a lot of times the party host, that does not have a bachelorette party planner, may have to deal with other planning duties. The bride-to-be is left on her own and a bachelorette party spoiler may approach her and divulge upsetting news.  Alcoholic beverages are usually the culprit; guests are more likely to be "loose lipped" and uninhibited.  As the bachelorette host, you should first reach out to the bride-to-be and comfort her. Try to get another sober guest to take your place in comforting the bride while you reach out to the offender.  When talking to the offender, try to analyze their level of intoxication.  Can they be wrangled or is it time for a cab ride home?  Again, if you don't have a planner, you'll need to make that call and/or arrange the details.

Of course every party situation is different, and I'm here to help with any questions you have,  pamela@bridesnightout.com.